Public speaking often comes with its fair share of unpredictability. No matter how prepared you are, something unexpected can happen (and usually does!).
Since starting my company, I've faced more than a few chaotic situations that have tested my adaptability and mindset.
Here are three of the most memorable moments and what they taught me about staying calm, human, and flexible in the face of chaos.
1) Getting Uninvited from My Speaking Events
As a speaker who regularly addresses topics like mental health and neurodiversity, I've received my fair share of emails that start with: "We regret to inform you there's been a change in plans."
Event organizers have pulled me from the agenda after realizing I would be discussing topics they deemed too sensitive or inappropriate. One diversity panel organizer even told me, "This belongs in a provider's office, not in a work environment."
It's not the first time I've been asked not to speak in my career. In fact, I had excellent preparation for facing resistance from the get-go.
During my early days as a sexual health educator, I vividly remember a school security guard escorting me to my "classroom," which turned out to be a door labeled 'Emergency Exit.' How's that for an entrance?
What I learned: Speaking on stigmatized topics means navigating different perspectives shaped by people's unique experiences, values, and cultures. These situations have reinforced the importance of knowing my "why"—the core reason I speak on these issues.
Sometimes, resistance is a sign that you're addressing something that desperately needs some airtime. Use it as a reminder to stay grounded in your mission.
2) Sweating Through My Clothes in the Desert
Last year, I was hired as an on-camera interviewer for a medical documentary. The film was shot in the desert, inside a giant geodesic dome.
It looks pretty cool, right? And it was—except I hadn't factored in the lack of air conditioning.
Within minutes, I was sweating through my shirt, my makeup was melting, and I realized that fabric choice can make or break you when you're living your best life in New Mexico.
What I learned: Always pay attention to your environment, especially if you're filming or speaking in unique locations. Stick to light, breathable fabrics and neutral colors that don't highlight sweat. And never forget face powder—your future self will thank you! Planning for the unexpected includes wardrobe prep, especially if you can't control the temperature.
3) Passing a Kidney Stone During a Talk
Several months ago, I was giving a virtual talk on positive psychology. As I was describing strategies for challenging negative thoughts, I was hit with an overwhelming, sharp pain.
My internal dialogue went something like, "You're about to die. Legitimately. Any second now. You will die in front of your participants."
In keeping with my speech, I quickly asked myself, "Is this thought helpful? Is it accurate?" Fearing the answers might be yes, I finished the seminar and went straight to the emergency department, where I discovered I had a small (but highly pesky) kidney stone.
A few days later, with medical clearance, me and my kidney stone flew to Houston for an in-person talk.
Was it an uncomfortable and bizarre speaking challenge? Absolutely.
Do I regret my decision? Not at all!
While I would've assumed this was a big medical no-no, I had the confidence of my medical team and a clear list of instructions to keep things safe.
What I learned: We're all human—even while delivering talks. Our health, emotions, and personal challenges don't disappear just because we're on stage.
If you have a health issue, don't ignore it. Prioritize getting checked out, work with your medical team to manage your risks and responsibilities, and ask for accommodations if needed.
You may conclude that the show must go on, but that decision should be made in a highly informed manner. Discuss the nature of your work with your provider and clarify your personal limits and strategies.
Now, it's your turn...
What chaotic moments have you faced in your professional journey? How did they shape you? (Scroll all the way down to comment!)
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